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I have often wondered if whether the way I think or communicate is normal. I have often felt guilty because I don’t have a lot of friends or that I don’t pursue the ones I do have. Have you ever felt guilty in that way? Maybe you are in a relationship where you continue to be frustrated with your spouse because he doesn’t seem to care enough that you don’t want to go to the local Mexican restaurant on your anniversary. You prefer something more intimate and special. I mean after all, you’ve lived with him for X number of years and he should know by now!

I have taken different personality tests (Meyer’s Briggs, DISC, etc.) over the years, either on my own, through a job, or for school. All of these tests have provided some degree of confirmation as to my personality and how I tend to act but, they’ve never explained to me WHY I get in dark moods, or why I tend to have just a few friends.

I have come to understand that these tests merely measure our personality; which only tells us how we are likely to behave. I want to know WHY I do these things. Who did God make me to be?

The Bible tells us that God made each of us unique and in His likeness. Science has even proven that each of us has a unique design through the discovery of DNA. Spend some time with a group of women in a Bible study and you will determine quickly that each of us think and respond to God’s Word is differently. Our vision and motivations are simply different.

Psalm 139: 13-16 tells us that God created our inmost being; the parts that no one can see, and that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made.” God has even laid out all the days of our lives! Then in Proverbs 22:6 it states, “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” The Hebrew word for way is: bent. This suggests that each of us has a unique bent, or temperament, that causes us to act in certain ways.

Temperament then, is inborn. It’s how God designed us specifically for His purposes; unlike our personality, which we can change to reflect how we want people to perceive us.

The Psychological and Spiritual community recognizes five temperaments. They are Melancholy, Choleric, Sanguine, Phlegmatic, and Supine. Each of these has their own way of dealing with life and relating to others.

If you’ve ever wondered why you act the way you do, or would like to get a better understanding of how God made you, Life In Abundance offers a temperament profile and detailed explanation of your specific temperament and how it interacts with others. Call the office today at 864-451-7898 and schedule your Temperament Assessment.

By Karen Grotler